Sex often is confused with passion and intimacy, something everyone desires but seems to be missing in typical relationships.

What it has become is a detriment to what most aren’t willing to admit that they want, and that’s intimacy.

The bedroom and the living room aren’t far apart.  If you are struggling in the bedroom, you are struggling in the living room.  And vice versa!

When two conscious adults seek intimacy, sex no longer becomes sex but a vehicle to connect emotionally and physically.

Determining what intimacy really is might help clarify what you desire. Create a to-do list for yourself to increase feelings of connection and intimacy with your partner. A fun simple list could include:

•  Send your partner a YouTube song with lyrics that make you think of him or her.
• Pack your partner’s lunch or morning coffee.
• Put a note in your partner’s bag or coat pocket.
• Be the initiator of sex.
• Tell your partner about the nicest thing they did for you today.
• Give a subtle look from across a crowded room that says “You are important.”
• A soft touch on the neck, lower back, or arm.
• Hold each other without agenda.
• Compliment your partner for something that isn’t physical.
• Compliment your partner for something that is physical.
• Stare into each other’s eyes the next time you want to get intimate; the eyes are the windows to the soul.
• Try staring at each other for two minutes, next time five minutes, then 10 minutes and watch what happens.

Print worksheet for both partners, complete each activity, and discuss.

Use chapter listed in BALLS Book or listen to video tutorial for guidance.

Add completed activities to your personal tool box for future use following completion.