Good, Bad & Ugly… Love your choices.

Why is it so hard to love ourselves unconditionally and give self-love?  We use the term loosely…”I am loving them unconditionally.”  But rarely do we love ourselves unconditionally.  You can’t love others if you don’t love YOU!

I have heard clients tell me…”If I love them unconditionally…do I have to love the bad stuff too?”  Yes, because only ego decides what’s bad, everything is right for your evolution! If you love unconditionally it should be without absolutes on your part as well. Which is a reflection of you loving your good, bad and ugly as well.

It means love them enough to let them fall down and learn the lesson they are meant to from the poor behavior. Stop enabling and dismissing poor behavior but love them by being more of the things they don’t love about themselves, instead of judging them for it.  It means setting your own unconditionally loving boundaries that prevents others from taking advantage of you. If you are going to be unconditional love, it must start with you, so you understand how to give it.  By being more of what you don’t want in others.  You become what they want to see in themselves as their reflection back.

Loving others unconditionally requires you to let them fall down, make mistakes and get back up on their own. Not judging how they do it or when they will make it up again. Loving enough to let go. Trusting that it’s their journey not yours.

Most of all, unconditionally loving yourself. Take care of you first, so your heart is strong and healthy enough to teach it when others need it.  Being the light they need instead of judging the darkness. Unconditional Love starts with you loving you without questioning if you are doing it right. It must start with you loving the parts of you that you mentally beat yourself up over daily.

Now here’s the tricky part, can you look at yourself with the purest of love?  Divine, universal, God love that says everything is right and perfect.   When you can see your life as an ongoing lesson to see how perfect falling, rising and being in each experience is.  That’s when you begin to stop beating yourself up and loving all of you.  This is always a fight with ego who has a right and wrong button, so we start beating ourselves up when ego says…”Society says that’s wrong, so you are bad and you should suffer.”  I disagree!!!!

Everything is present for you to become more of what you don’t like and do like.  It’s a simple choice every day to be more of what you want and acknowledge why “things you don’t want” are so perfect while they are present.  Acknowledging how wonderful its presence was and what it offered you, gives it meaning and unconditional love for your growth and evolution.

Then you are filling yourself with loving energy and not draining yourself with mental suffering, insecurities and guilt. Love every decision and choice you make for its greatest truest purpose for you and it will lessen your guilt and allow you to love your decisions.  Giving you power and energy to grow in every choice you make.

You get to choose what you want in that moment and say… “I choose this because it is giving me “This ???.”  That is you filling it with thoughtful energy and powerful reasoning.  That is thanking God, divine unconditional love for that experience and its lesson for you to grow and acknowledging your choice.

You can choose more of that thing for more growth or more of something else for different growth.  Simply decide it’s always right and perfect for you at this moment.  Love your choices and love them unconditionally.  Then you will begin to take back your power and feel like you have more energy to create the life you desire.

Question of the day:  No matter what they are… Do you love all your choices unconditionally with love?

Brightest Blessings,
Daune