CAN YOU ASK FOR LOVE?

When did it become ‘BAD’ to ask for love? When did we learn it’s ok to settle for an emotionally empty life?  It’s not only unacceptable, it’s killing the sweetest part of life, our ability to connect with others.

The heart, as many know, is a muscle, but it’s a muscle that reacts to electrical currents and its pumping system is regulated by electrical impulses.  As you know, in order to restart a heart that is in arrest, electrical paddles are used to send electricity into it, shocking it to wake up.  Now simplify this concept and just assume the heart not only craves but needs currents of energy flowing through it to feel whole and healthy.

According to Einstein, everything is energy and therefore, this theory includes our thoughts; just like the electrical waves of a defibrillator, our thoughts are electrical impulses within our brains and have an energetic foundation.  

“I see it often, many of my clients have lived an emotionally empty life where their hearts are deprived of loving energy for prolonged periods of time.  Shut down, they are challenged with the flow of  loving vibes – an open heart feels fabulous as it vibrates an  energy of love and joy; in contrast, a heart that is closed feels horrible with it’s energy pattern of restriction and fear.”

When working with these clients,  I ask what they learned about love while growing up, when their hearts were learning to grow energetically as well.  They typically answer,  “I’m not sure what love is.”

Well, the truth is:  love is a necessity for everyone and because of this, life requires a flow of giving and receiving of loving words, experiences, and vibrations to those in our lives.  However, if your heart hasn’t been programmed in this way, you may not have the skillset of giving love or the awareness that you are in need of love to create a full heart.  We’ve all felt it, the vibes coming from a heart full of love and joy… It’s those people where it just feels great to be in their space.  Their hearts are vibrating impulses and they become feelings because of the vibration.

Now imagine as a child, you learned that love was difficult to come by.  Most likely your adult experience with love is scarcity and lack.  So the best prescription:  ask for it; ask for LOVE.

Why is this so difficult to ask for attention and appreciation?  What are we afraid of?  Appearing needy, the possibility of rejection?  A common comment I hear is that “I shouldn’t have to ask for love, others should just know it.”  I always encourage the consideration that if “others” are unaccustomed to expressing loving feelings, it’s probably just as challenging for them.

Just like you, my schedule gets busy at times while running a business, shuttling them around and maintaining a household as a single mom.  I have taught my daughters that if they are feeling in need of TLC and I’m unaware, to ask for it –  “Mom, I need some extra love” is code in my house.   BAM… that’s all I need to become attentive and caring.  They know that they are most important to me and I will drop all at that moment and give them LOVE, which includes lots of hugs and kisses.  Usually,  most of what they need is just time,  the opportunity to express their feelings….. Yes, Feelings….those things we forget the importance of.  Feelings come from expressing what’s in your heart, not in your head.  Sometimes the most loving thing we can do is provide the space for those we love to express their heart.  

So I ask you to implement the same rule in your life.  Let’s call it, “STOP, DROP & ROLL.”   Let others know that when they are feeling they could use an extra dose of love that they simply need to ask and BAM…. you will stop and deliver love.

 

Here’s the best part… when we give love freely, that’s exactly what you will get back.  Suddenly, the pattern will shift where you will be afforded the same opportunity; asking someone for love, will shock their heart to immediately wake up and share a loving moment.  I’m grateful when someone asks me; it’s such an easy thing to do by simply listening, offering a compliment and inspiring them to follow their heart and I know that’s what will be returned.

The better you get at asking for what you need, especially love, the happier and healthier you will be.  Your heart will thank you for it.

Brightest Blessings,

Daune